21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
Marriage is a natural relationship, but marriage operates by spiritual laws. Please understand though that marriage is a natural relationship. When a man and a woman is married, the needs and desires of his/her mate is a priority on the Earth. It’s okay to put the natural needs and desires of your mate above everything.
- Natural affections:
- Time spent together,
- Material things,
- Sexual desires,
- Intimacy, honor,
- Submission to one another is good and right.
These are duties and privileges to be enjoyed within the marriage bond. Marriage done right yields an invaluable result. Since marriage operates by spiritual laws. The only way to do it right is by finding out how the creator of marriage intended for it to work and operate the laws that govern marriage.
Number 1, Finding out how the creator of marriage intended for it to work and Number 2 Appropriating the laws that govern marriage. You see, God created marriage and when he created marriage he stated laws by which marriage are to function and any person who understands those laws and will respect those laws have a 100% chance of keeping the intimacy and fulfillment in the marriage. People have a 0% chance for success in marriage if they do not keep those laws. God designed marriage to be the most important priority in our lives next to the Lord Jesus Christ. It only operates at that level of priority. God designed marriage, such that marriage requires work. When you appropriated the laws that govern marriage, your marriage will work and you will enjoy satisfaction and intimacy.
Number 3, God designed marriage such that marriage would be co-ownership and co-administration. Anything that you will not surrender to the ownership and the administration of your mate will interfere with intimacy of your marriage relationship.
Number 4, God designed marriage to operate in an atmosphere of purity. In that atmosphere we can expose ourselves to one another as long as you don’t sin against your mate and when you do sin against him/her you take responsibility for it. Your mate will share ideas and feelings and dreams and their body. When sin entered the garden of Eden, Adam and Eve covered their genitals with figs. Genitals are in an area of the woman and man differences and sensitivity. So, when you are careful how you treat your spouse, you are able to deal with each other’s differences and sensitivity.
You can damage your mate with your mouth when you get angry. The greatest sensitivity of life are exposed in marriage. And when you expose your heart to your mate, of all people in the world, the person who can hurt you the most is your mate. Since we did not create marriage, our own version of how it works will only yield limited short term fulfillment. Also, if a marriage is broken, it can be fixed and restored by returning to the same principles.
God can unscramble scrambled eggs. Feelings follows actions. Marriage relationships can be built that are full of intimacy and fulfillment. This is what we all want and desire. The good news is that this is what our heavenly father has planned for us. Marriage is wonderful. Especially when the Word of God has full authority in our marriage.
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The natural relationship of marriage built on scriptural principles bring glory to God; and it makes the marriage partner happy. When storms come, the marriage that is built on the rock won’t fall.
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
The Word of God not only shows us how to build a good marriage/relationship, but the word of God helps us deal with problems. I talk about dealing with problems in my next blog “About Marriage 2: About Marriage Problems”.
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